As a marriage counselor and coach, I have seen many clients work toward reconciliation with very positive results. Marriage reconciliation takes reasonable, reliable steps that will encourage individual growth and will inevitably influence your circumstances.
Working with couples for the past 15 years I have seen many courageous clients celebrate small to life-changing victories. My wife, Jan, and I have celebrated many victories in our marriage of 27 years. You can do this, too!
My favorite clients, the ones who inspire me to be a better man, husband, dad, and counselor, have this characteristic in common – they do not demand that circumstances submit to their wills. They choose to take life on life’s terms, seeking instead the kind of transformation that enables them to experience the very same circumstances from a fresh, hope-filled, life-affirming perspective. Of course, the irony is that their transformed attitude often positively influences their circumstances.
One of the best ways to identify someone in transformation is from the questions they ask. “How can I get my walkaway spouse to…” is often pre-transformation. “How can I respond more lovingly when…” is a good indicator that someone is growing through their trials.
I’m not giving up on successfully reconciled marriages! No way! I am convinced that we become a greater influence toward this goal when we embrace that change is inevitable, but growth is optional.
Hang in there – you can do this!
Chuck
Call Chuck at 720-519-0376 or email him at chuck@chuckfallon.com for face-to-face appointments. Contact Divorce Busting directly at divorcebusting.com or by phone at 800-664-2435 to set up a phone session with Chuck.
