Proverbs 17:28 says “Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent…”. The modern day version of this is “Better to be silent and thought a fool, than to speak and remove all doubt!”

So why am I so bent on overcoming silence? I wrestled with this idea, since the SOS Club seems to contradict this age-old wisdom. What I realized was it doesn’t say “a fool becomes wise if he keeps silent…”. If my goal is to appear wise, then silence could well be the ticket. However, according to the scripture, silence may not help me if my goal is to become wise.

Strong Or Silent – you can’t be both is the challenge of the SOS Club, and it’s not for every guy. This is why a one-on-one coaching session is required before joining the SOS Club. Every man who participates needs to be ready for the experience, to have clear expectations of what the SOS club is – and what it is not. Let’s start with the “not”.

The SOS Club is not a place where we’ll feel ashamed that we are men. We won’t beat ourselves up over our stupid mistakes, or make excuses for them. We won’t blame our wives, our parents, our genes, our government, or our little league baseball coaches for stupid mistakes we’ve made.

The SOS Club is a place where we can remove our masks and be authentic; taking off as many, or as few as we want. It’s a place where we’ll own our mistakes and learn from them. It’s a place where we’ll experience negative emotions, learn how to identify what we’re feeling, why we’re feeling them, and what to do about them.

The SOS Club is a place where we’ll set goals that are realistic and purposeful; and we’ll measure our thoughts, attitudes and actions by how well they support our goals.

Here’s my confession. I’m more comfortable with silence than I am with engaging, even when it’s a noble cause. My fear is that men will sign up for the SOS club and expect that this professional will have all the answers. Well, I don’t have all the answers, but I do have a conviction that when we engage with honesty and courage, growth is inevitable.

If you are a man whose marriage is in trouble, and you don’t know what to do about it, please join me in the SOS Club. Read more about it, then contact me to get the ball rolling. Space is limited, check it out now.

You can do this!